Love - Who Me?

Sivan Garr Presents –  I Love You set the stage for one of the best interactions ever. Eddie Conner  provided a wonderful guided meditation.

The topic was Love – Who Me? and opened with a video by Abraham-Hicks entitled Tune into Love.  The message was that Source loves us no matter what. We just need to align our vibration with Source and allow the good things to happen.

What thoughts enter the mind when we hear the word “love”?  Some people immediately think of experiences and words that feel positive. Others who had negative love experiences have corresponding bad feelings. But all feelings of love emanate from within. You need to love yourself first before allowing love of others.

If we experienced love from our parents, we had good role models and were able to learn the basics. This gives us a leg up on allowing love into our lives. If we did not learn from parents when we were young, we need to teach ourselves from scratch. But in the end, it really doesn’t matter how we were raised or if we learned anything from our parents. To learn to love ourselves and others, we must teach ourselves how to do it.  We do this through our own life experiences.

A friend of ours asks the Universe for proof that she is loved. It is really a cute and successful process. She sets her intention before leaving home to have the Universe show her how she is loved.  She greets people with a smile and a heartfelt greeting like “Good Morning”.  Most people react well and smile back with their greetings. She is nice to the clerks and salespeople she encounters, acknowledges them in a positive manner and with a smile, and in turn they are nice to her. She envisions them at the dinner table at home telling their families “I met the nicest customer today”.  This provides proof to her that others out there, even strangers, can make her feel loved.

Another friend plays what she calls “The Alphabet Game”.  On her way to work she finds a positive adjective beginning with the letter “A” to describes herself.  Then on to “B” and “C”, etc.  She arrives at work high on herself by setting the tone for loving herself first, and the world follows her frequency.

When she knows she will be meeting with one of her difficult clients, a tax accountant thinks nice thoughts and as many positive aspects of that client as possible.  This exercise changes the vibration so when the client enters the room, the atmosphere is positive and the clients stay nice and calm.

How do we deal with people who are hard to love?  We need to love them anyway.  When people are harsh on us, it has no reflection on us; it is a reflection on them.  Forgive them, and don’t take it personally.  Send them love because they need it more than we do. Also remember if someone pushes our buttons, we get what we ask for. We need to forgive ourselves and look for the lesson they are trying to teach us.  Remember the best way to get love is to give it first.  And don’t give up.  Keep showing the person love and they will come around.

Think about this.  Humans are the only beings that hold on to bad vibrations. We need to learn to shake them off and free our minds to exist in peace. There is a really good book on the subject called Why Don’t Zebras Get Ulcers by Robert M. Sapolsky available on Amazon.com.

There are several techniques to get rid of thoughts that haunt us. One is to visualize a basket with helium filled balloons tied to it. Place the haunting thoughts into the basket and release it to the Universe. Let the Universe deal with them.

Another technique is particularly helpful in situations where a person has done something “unforgivable” to us, and it keeps haunting us.   It can be a friendship betrayed, a former lover, a coworker, or neighbor.  This techniques works for all situations.  Have a higher self conversation with that person’s higher self. 

Here’s an example.  “Mark, this is my higher self having a conversation with your higher self.  We were friends at one time, and I miss that friendship.  For some reason unknown to me, you betrayed that friendship. If that happened because of something I did, I am truly sorry. I did not mean to harm you in any way. But what you did to me has altered our friendship forever because I can no longer trust you. And I feel your negative energy continually being sent from your higher self to me.  Please stop sending negative energy, and start sending positive thoughts because from now on whatever thoughts you send my way I am returning to you. If you send negative, you will get your negativity right back. So please send positive energy so I can return that to you in a healing manner”.

Remember this (paraphrased) message from Louise Hay.  The past is done. Replaying what happened yesterday takes away the precious moments of today.

All of these techniques have a common theme:

·         Forgive yourself

·         Forgive the other person

·         Free your mind

·         Free your spirit

When we truly love ourselves we will be preparing ourselves to accept other love.  So, love the you that you are.

There is a beautiful poem by Hafiz, a 14th-century Persian mystic and poet.

“Even after all this time, the Sun never says to the Earth “You owe me”.

Look what happens with a love like that. It lights the whole sky.”

So, let us affirm to ourselves right now by reciting the following:

I love and respect myself exactly as I am

I deserve and accept it now

I attract only loving, healthy relationships into my life

All my relationships are healthy, healed and whole

And now I experience an abundance of love within my life.

The closing video was Abraham – The Feeling of Alignment  

Assignment:  Write a love letter to yourself and look at it every day.

Our next meeting will be June 17, 2013 and the subject will be “Inner Conflict – Who Me?

December Meeting and Pot Luck

Ramona opened the meeting by introducing Eddie Conner via Skype. Eddie provided a guided meditation helping us open our hearts and minds to appreciate what we have and what we want so that we can make 2013 our best year ever.

Chris Reynolds handed out a chart that he and Cheryl Wood have developed. It is a system designed to discover the blockages people might have that keep them from achieving what they want out of life.

The group viewed an Abraham video entitled “Is 2012 thetime of Awakening?”, followed by a mastermind Q and A. 

Ramona asked members to share what they were going to do different to make 2013 their best year ever. The general theme was to appreciate what we have more.

At the close, Ramona led the group in a “repeat after me” meditation which follows:

How are you feeling right now?  Great?  Then let’s ask the Universe for more of this for the coming year. Repeat the following:

Universe, bring me more of this please, in surprising ways I can’t even wrap my head around. Bring it to me in ways that make me laugh so hard my stomach and face hurt; in ways that activate my soul esteem; in ways that activate my soul confidence.  Put me at the right place at the right time with the right people, places and situations that give me back 190% of love. All this just for the Joy of it!!!

What this meditation did was send up rockets of desire as a collective consciousness. It’s going to be a GREAT 2013!

A scroll was given to each participant with Abraham’s “Just Say Yes” on it.  Here it is.

When you say “YES” to something, you include something you do want into your experience. When you say “NO” to something, you include something you do not want into your experience.  Just say “YES”.

Say “Yes!” to abundance.

Say “Yes!” to well-being.

Say “Yes!” to joy.

Say “Yes!” to love.

Say “Yes!” to happiness.

Say “Yes!” to inspiration.

Say “Yes!” to solutions.

Say “Yes!” to relief.

Say “Yes!” to answers.

Say “Yes!” to miracles.

Say “Yes!” to magic.

Say “Yes!” to allowing.

Say “Yes!” to the flow.

Say “Yes!” to it is done.

Say “Yes!” to believing.

Say “Yes!” to the now.

Say “Yes!” to wonderment.

Say “Yes!” to adventure.

Say “Yes!” to the unfolding.

Say “Yes!” to the journey.

Say “Yes!” to life.

We wish you all a wonderful holiday season and a fabulous New Year.  2013 will be our BEST YEAR EVER.  See you in the spring.

Mastermind Q & A

Ramona introduced the first time attendees and asked each to tell a little about his or herself.  Then several people shared their “wins” since their last meeting.

Eddie Conner provided a guided meditation via Skype inviting all to share their questions so that the group can provide insight in a mastermind format – the wisdom of group thought.

Ramona led a tribute to our dear departed member and good friend, Kimberly, and relayed the salient points from her funeral ceremony. Ramona read Abraham’s Recipe for Joy which was a part of the eulogy she gave.

Seek joy, first and foremost.
Seek reasons to laugh.
Seek reasons to offer words of praise to self and others.
Seek beauty in nature, beasts and other humans.
Seek reasons to love. In every segment of every day — look for something that brings forth within you a feeling of love.
Seek that which uplifts you.
Seek opportunities to offer that which uplifts another.
Seek a feeling of Well-being.
Know that your value can only be measured in terms of Joy.
Acknowledge your absolute freedom to do any of these things or to not do any of these things — for it is, without exception, your choice in every moment of every day.

We watched a video, Living on the Leading Edge. Three main points were made: 1) Life is supposed to feel good, so it’s OK to have a tantrum when it doesn’t feel good. 2) Get over your tantrum by remembering you created your own reality. So change your thoughts and create the reality you want. 3) Most important, remember you can’t get it wrong - just have a wonderful time and feel good.

Tonight’s meeting was a Mastermind Q & A where members ask any question they want, and the group uses their wisdom and insights to answer. The first question revolved around how to pre-pave the outcome when meeting with someone whose grid you know will be negative and you don’t want that negativity to rub off on you. Some suggestions were:

Before you enter the situation, do not assume that the experience will be negative. Get centered beforehand by doing something fun even if only for 15 minutes. Do a rampage of appreciation about the person.

During the meeting, don’t let their negativity creep into your life and change your grid – go general.  Their negativity has nothing to do with you. Just let it be. Change the subject to something pleasant. If you do this enough times, they will get the message that their negativity is being diverted and will not rub off on you, in effect training them to be nicer for the future.

After the meeting, if you need to realign yourself, try the tapping technique.  Do something you like to do such as singing, dancing, or watching TV – whatever makes you feel good.  Look for something to be grateful for (even if it’s that you only have to spend 5 minutes with the person).  Be thankful that you don’t have to live that way.

Someone questioned Esther’s comment about not minding when her car drifts to the side of the road and feels the bumps of the rumble strip. The comment was referring primarily to relationships, but has applicability elsewhere. The group’s explanation was that contrast is the way most people learn. You have to know what you don’t like to learn what you do like. When you hit the bumps in the road, remember what you liked and disliked about it. A good reference for this situation can be found in chapter 22 of “Ask and it is Given”. It is called Abraham’s Emotional Guidance System.

The scale of emotions, from best to worst, is as follows:

1.       Joy/Knowledge/Empowerment/Freedom/Love/Appreciation

2.      Passion

3.      Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness

4.      Positive Expectation/Belief

5.      Optimism

6.      Hopefulness

7.      Contentment

8.     Boredom

9.      Pessimism

10.  Frustration/Irritation/Impatience

11.   Overwhelment

12.  Disappointment

13.  Doubt

14.  Worry

15.   Blame

16.  Discouragement

17.   Anger

18.  Revenge

19.  Hatred/Rage

20. Jealousy

21.  Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness

22. Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness

The final question for discussion was that you get more of what you focus on and appreciate. However, if you are in a bad situation and focused on it, you will get more of it. The suggestions were to redirect your focus and think about things that feel good. Appreciate the good things in life and focus on what you do want – not on the bad situation you have. Go more general in your thinking and make your grid more general.

Someone read a poem by Rumi, a 13^th century Persian poet. It’s called Guest House.

This being human is a guest house.  Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they're a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.

Ramona read a story about one person’s experience with African children and a good lesson for all.

An anthropologist proposed a game to children in an African tribe. He put a basket full of fruit near a tree and told the children that whoever got there first won the sweet fruits. When he told them to run, they all took each other's hands and ran together, then sat together enjoying their treats.

When he asked them why they had run like that when one could have had all the fruits for himself, they said, "How can one of us be happy if all the other ones are sad?"

Be sure to check out Chris Reynolds’s Meet-Up, the Lakeshore Mastermind Group and consider joining. It is based on teachings of the Global Information Network which follows many of the principles of Abraham’s Law of Attraction.  Chris’ group meets regularly including the winter months.

Our next meeting will be a Holiday Pot Luck on December 9.

Ramona closed the meeting with a video “Get Happy”.  

Resistance - Who Me?

  October 1, 2012

The group welcomed new and former members. New attendees shared some information about themselves.

EddieConner opened with a lighthearted guided meditation to empower members to release their resistance.  

The first video was Abraham-HicksGo General.

WHAT IS RESISTANCE?  Members answered, it’s a manifestation of our fears and insecurities. It is pain, disappointment and things that feel like rejection to us. It’s pushing back, reluctance to change, fear of the unknown because we don’t know what’s on “the other side”. We only know what we know. And, it’s ego.

Why do we keep going back to thoughts of resistance? It’s a habit. When we resist something it’s like putting up fences to keep our desires out and our negative thoughts and things inside our energy grids. We do it without realizing it. We are comfortable with where we are, so it’s like being on auto pilot. It becomes automatic. Maybe we are just lazy. We learned to do this since we were young and as adults we’re working to pull ourselves back into the stream of pure, positive energy. 

How can we end our resistant thoughts? As a group we took turns as offering suggestions to release our internal struggles. Some points were:

Keeping our intentions more general, more relaxed.

Make your desires fun and light so that you feel better about them.

Listen to music that lifts your spirit.

Be in the general flow of things you appreciate. “Go with the flow”.

Appreciate things just for the joy of it.

A member shared how he and his wife overcame resistance relating to money. He wanted to save everything for retirement, while she wanted to live life to the fullest. It took several years, but over time each moved towards the middle and they were able to do some of both. It was out of love that each one gave into the other, but the process also made them love one another more.

What other ways do members use to get out of resistance? We consciously become aware that our every thought, every feeling, every step and every breath is a joyous opportunity for us to shift from what we don’t want to what we do want.

Focus on all things that feel really good. Why? Because when we feel good our negative emotion and all things resistant melt away leaving us standing in our vortex. Look at the glass as half full. Count your blessings. Walking in nature and laughter are all great ways to release resistance.

If we stop caring about IF our desires work or come true, they will present themselves. Don’t picture how it will happen. Rather, immerse yourself in what you want.

Here is an appropriate Abraham quote: “How long does it take to manifest something?  It takes as long as it takes to release resistance. It could be 30 years, 40 years, or tomorrow!”

Members shared amazing stories of how they had resistance about heavy topics and then how they turned their thoughts and feelings around to get miraculous, even extraordinary outcomes.

Remember another Abraham quote “The sooner you start enjoying the difficulty, then the sooner it goes away. The sooner it serves you and then in the enjoyment of the difficulty there is not a vibrational frequency that can keep the difficulty coming. It’s only pain and suffering that keeps difficulty coming”.

Other simple ways to create happiness momentum are:

Drop “How?” from your vocabulary and from your mindset.

Think of resistance as a friend reminding you to clean up your thoughts.

Know that our first instincts are usually the right ones.

Follow your heart and trust your gut-brain.

Learn to let go of things that no longer serve us.

Life is easier when we choose to consciously appreciate things.

Remember, what you do is not who you are.

Act “as if” your desires are here now so that you attract the outcome you want.

Write your desired end result you want today so you attract it tomorrow.

The more pure our intention is the happier we are and the faster we attract.

You have to imagine the life you want

And fine-tune your desires on a daily basis, for the shear happiness of it.

Abraham asks “Why is there never a crowd on the leading edge?” Abraham answers “Crowds are about manifestation; leading edge is about thought. We want you to take your thought to a place that pleases you with complete disregard to how the crowd might feel about it.  We would like to add a little expansion to this conversation about the crowd on the leading edge because there are a lot of us non-physically flowing with you in your leading edge thought, but when we visit with most humans, we’re not the crowd you’re usually looking for. But when we are, your life will shift”.

The closing video was Abraham-HicksLighten Up.