Monday, June 17, 2013

Inner Conflict - Who Me?

Ramona welcomed everyone and asked new attendees to give a brief introduction of themselves. Eddie Conner led us through a meditation directed at helping us identify and get rid of our Inner Conflicts. If you want an audio file of Eddie's meditation, email us and we will send it to you.

We showed an Abraham video (it starts with a commercial – sorry!) Thinking, As Choosing Your Thoughts followed by a discussion of where inner conflict comes from. Some examples are the media, ego, family history, and self doubt. When we feel negative emotion we are out of the vortex. The vortex is a feeling of joy, relief, fun as opposed to the dark heavy feelings we get when things “go wrong”. It’s where we want to be as much of the time as possible. To get back into the vortex, do or think whatever makes you feel good to bring you back into vibrational alignment.

Ramona provided an example of getting out of the vortex and how she  was able to get back in. When she heard Mike's cancer was back, she went into a tailspin. Remembering he was undefeated (in his one boxing match in college), she downloaded the theme from Rocky and pictures Mike knocking out the tumor as he did the first time. This whimsical exercise allows her to get back into the vortex with positive thoughts.

Another member likes to listen to and sing along with older country music songs that have humorous lyrics as she drives her car. It lightens her vibration and sets the tone for the day.

We showed Dr. Emoto's Video on the effects of thought on water, from "What The Bleep".  If thoughts can do that to distilled water, imagine the effect our thoughts have on us.

Several members have read books they recommend on how to overcome inner conflicts and get yourself back into the vortex:
  • Biology of Belief by Bruce Lipton 
  • Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman
  • Activate Joy by Alix Sandra Parness DD
  • A Happy Pocket Full of Money by David Cameron Gikandi 
  • Super Brain by Deepak Chopra
 A good formula for getting back into the vortex is:
  • First - let it go, whatever "it" is.
  • Remember, if there is something you desire and it is not coming to you, it means you are not a vibrational match to your own desire.
  • Get yourself into a good feeling place.
  • Remember to go general - start small - appreciate the little things and then grow into the bigger items until you become a match with your desires.
  • Don't worry about the details. Don't limit your thoughts. Daydream your desires without the "how".
  • Then ask for what you want as in "I desire this or something better for the greatest good all all concerned."
What about repetitive negative thought?  First - stop the thought. Find something you love to think about instead. When you find the best thing to think about, lock it into your brain. Learn how to identify the negative thought quickly by feeling it in your gut. Train your brain to switch so that every time the negative thought comes up you automatically switch to the positive thought. 

Someone asked if men are wired differently because it seems they can drop the negative thoughts more easily than women. Most agreed men have an easier time with this.

Tapping was suggested as a tool for relaxing and stress-free living. Nick Ortner's The Tapping Solution and Gary Craig's Emotional Freedom Techniques were recommended. 

Another process is journalling. One member finds when she journals it becomes free writing and she either gets to what is bothering her or it takes her mind off the issue.

A member finds it stressful when she is unable to make a decision. She found it helpful to label herself "Not Knowing and Loving It". It removes the stress of having to make a decision which frees her mind to think more clearly.

When faced with a situation that historically has been a negative experience, like a family gathering, try this. Family usually has history - and it isn't always pleasant. You know what to expect. Instead of expecting the clashes and digs, try going in as if you had never met each person before.  Give them the benefit of the doubt. 

Be grateful for what you have, and have a vicarious sense of joy for the successes of others. For example, if you are looking for that perfect relationship, do not grouse that you do not have one, and do not be jealous of those you see who do. Instead, when you see a couple with that perfect relationship, be happy for them and say to yourself "That's got my name all over it!".

Reframing was discussed. Reframing is taking something that isn't perfect for your situation (like a picture in a frame) and placing a new frame on it. A new frame will accentuate different things in the picture. Reframing can also allow you to change what's in the picture and make it the way you want it. Some examples of reframing are telling a new story, and tapping.

Ramona read the following, and the group repeated:
Universe, thank you for reminding me that I am good and worthy.
Universe, thank you for reminding me to not take things so seriously.
Universe, thank you for reminding me that I am moving in the direction that is best for me each day.
Universe, thank you for reminding me that the past is gone and the future is filled with unlimited possibilities.
Universe, thank you for the multitude of non-physical beings lined up to assist me every step of every day.
Universe, thank you for reminding me that this is going to be the most amazing year of my life.
And so it is!

In the words of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, "If you shield the mountain from the windstorms, you'll never see the beauty of the carvings."

The closing video was Abraham's Life is Good.

Our next meeting will be July 15. See you then.