Ramona opened the meeting by welcoming guests and asking updates and successes since the last meeting.
EddieConner led the group in a meditation.
The opening video was a segment from the DVD of the Mediterranean cruise of 2013 entitled “Is it OK to want a perfect partner?” Since this is a DVD segment a link is not available.
Ramona passed out a pivoting worksheet to help resolve relationship issues. Pick a relationship with which you have an issue. On the left side of the worksheet, list as many things as you can that you don’t like about that person, or have a problem with. On the right side of the worksheet write the exact opposite of the unwanted entry using positive terms. Fold the sheet down the middle so you see only the wanted side. Study the wanted side every morning or nighttime for twenty-one days and watch the attributes on the wanted side show up. This exercise can be done with anything – relationships, money, job, health, or even on yourself. There is more on pivoting in the book “Ask and it is Given” by Jerry and Esther Hicks.
To open yourself up to the path to real love, it is important to love yourself first. Believe you are deserving of someone’s love, and learn to love yourself first. Then you can open yourself up to receiving someone else’s love. When you love yourself, others will want to come to you because they see that love in you and want what you have.
Ramona shared an experience with a member of our Burbank group. We were talking about love when one member shared that she does not know how to love herself. She stumbled thinking of things she even liked about herself. The group spoke up listing things they love about her. One recommendation was to play the alphabet game where you think of an attribute you like about yourself for each letter of the alphabet. I am attractive, I am beautiful, I am caring, I am delicious, etc. That evening completely changed her outlook on herself to where she is posting on Facebook and now beams self-love.
Last year we provided the group with a “What I Love About Myself” chart. It is a wonderful exercise to discover the things we do not realize we love about ourselves. The result - you will feel better about yourself and love yourself more than before the exercise.
The formative years – everything that happens around us from conception through about age 9 or 10 (or later) gets “recorded” in our brains. Things that happen to us later in life get responses based on the information stored in our brains from those formative years. These prerecorded responses affect how we view ourselves and our relationship with others.
When you have issues with self-love, what can we do to help ourselves? Meditate images of love coming to us; affirmations, but make sure we are on a high flying disc before reciting the affirmation; exercise; walk on the beach or get out into nature; play with your pets. In all self-love work, the key is to neutralize the negatives and refill the void with positive vibrational matches.
Another technique that works is to close your eyes and get into a meditative state. Think of a person you love. Experience the strong feelings you have for that person and then replace that person with an image of yourself.
Practice Louise Hay mirror work first thing every day. Place a note on your mirror such as “Say something nice to me” or “You are beautiful” or better yet “I love you”. If you have trouble with this technique, pick something you like about yourself to start loving, such as your eyes. Then expand the love to other features until you can say you love your entire self. Looking in the mirror first thing in the morning is also a good way to see how in alignment you are.
In relationships with others, look at what you do right to love yourself and project that love to the other person. Be present at all times with those you love and leave the baggage behind. When you are having issues with others look for all that is right about the person – things you love about them and memories of great times together. The more you do this they will either rise up to match your vibration or vibrate out of your life.
Abraham’s newest definition of unconditional love is; “Find love regardless of the condition. Then look at what you are inspired to see."
What do you do when you have lost the love of your life and want to replace that loving feeling? First you must love yourself. Then be clear on what you want. Think of all the positive characteristics from your lost relationship that you would like to see in your next one. Remember all the wonderful things your partner did; the qualities he or she had that you loved beyond belief. Just thinking of those characteristics will raise your vibration which will serve to attract people with those characteristics. Do not expect to replace the lost relationship with exactly the same person. Instead you will get someone different but with the beautiful parts you so loved. Keep your vibration high and you will attract the relationship you want and deserve.
Ramona closed the meeting with a beautiful Lake Michigan sunset and these thoughts from Abraham:
“Your greatest value to others is when you are joyful. Your greatest value to others is when you are connected. Your greatest value to others is to be radiantly healthy. Your greatest value to others is when you are happy. Your greatest value to others is to have and do all the things that are important to you. And as you are living that and vibrating that-- then you are a catalyst that is inspiring others to an awareness of that.”
Our next meeting will be June 1.